I had a friend in high school whose mom wrote her papers. At the time I thought: messed up family.
Then I became a mom who practiced cello three hours a day with my son. And I thought: messed up family.
When we added two hours a day of piano practice I thought: I need to own who I really am. I’m a person who teaches my kids to cut corners. Here are my six principles of cutting corners:
1. Link your goals to your moral code so you know what rules you can break.
I surprised myself when I was surrounded by music moms, but then I realized it’s like belonging to a synagogue that also recruits Asians. I surprised myself when I embraced the mantra of “music is not about speed,” but then I realized we were all racing when no one was watching.
I am no longer surprised by my particular brand of tiger mom parenting (with a healthy dose of Jewish-mother martyrdom and Gen-X reverence for cynicism.