The New York Times has an 11-point list of questions to ask yourself to see if you’ve done everything you can to save your marriage. I coach a lot of people who are thinking about getting a divorce. Almost everyone feels that their spouse is impossible, unresponsive, and/or doesn’t care about the issues at hand.
The biggest problem with divorce is that people who struggle with money divorce the most, but people who don’t struggle with money are the people who have a better life after divorce; and it’s almost always the men in one way or another.
So what’s the best way to know if you’ll benefit from divorce? Think about divorce in terms of what life will be like after the divorce. Because the reasons divorce is a bad idea, besides being terrible for the kids, is that unless you are a high earner, you have little ability to control what happens after divorce.