I hate them because they are so judgy. As an ENTJ I am too uncaring to spend time passing judgment on INFJs. But there’s a hierarchy of influences on our personality and autism trumps personality type, so as an autistic ENTJ I spend a lot of time expressing my knowledge about INFJs being judgy, and then I can understand how INFJs say they aren’t judgy they are just saying what they notice.
So anyway, two days ago I was coaching an INFJ and it went like many coaching sessions with INFJs. I said, “To get started, what’s is your personality type and how old are you?” The person answered, “I’m an INTJ and I’m old.”
I said, “You’re an INFJ. An INTJ wouldn’t bother summarizing their age like that.”
So she told me her age. And then it turned out that she told me about her divorce. And she was defensive and shut down and I said, “We can’t get anything done if you are defensive and shut down.